Here is a neat little idea for getting better results from your practice sessions. This works with any skills development but is often overlooked.
How do you feel about learning?
I first really noticed this when learning to play the guitar. When I was practicing a piece I would derive great enjoyment out of the bits I could play and get frustrated with the bits I couldn’t.
The more I would practice the difficult bits out of context the more I would build the frustration and negative emotional states into the piece. So even when I could play that bit I was finding difficult I was left feeling very different about it than the bit before and the bit afterwards.
The end result is that that little bit I found difficult to play would now sound different from the rest of the piece when put back in to context.
This article is really about about accelerated learning and hypnotic persuasion skills but here is a gratuitous picture of the office guitar anyway.
How about learning hypnotic language?
I found that people learning hypnotic language patterns would go through a similar experience. Because they are so focused on getting the pattern “right” they would treat it differently from the rest of the conversation. That eventually results in them never being natural and fluent using language patterns because they never properly become part of the conversation.
If that is the problem what is the solution?
The important thing is to get into the right emotional state and keep hold of that. When I was a teenager and learning martial arts I had one sensei who really knew how to set frames. He would set up exercises where we would have to spar but at the same time maintain eye contact and smile. This already puts a completely different frame on a fight.
He would also send us into peripheral vision and using a flow state. This inherent made us more calm, relaxed and emotionally detached. Again this is a very different state to be in when fighting.
What is failure to you?
A few other things I do when learning any new skills is to make sure I have reframed failure to something good, fun or at least useful.
If you have ever learnt to play a musical instrument you will have encountered this particular issue. I would practice until I could play a piece. But then the first time I was in front of an audience whether it was my mother, my friends or a random stranger my playing would fall apart.
What I worked out from this was I was so invested in playing it “right” when I had some sort of audience that it changed my emotional state and therefore I could not play the same way as I did when I was alone.
Some novice musicians get round this by cutting themselves off from their audience when they play. You can see and often hear when musicians are playing to themselves and not their audience. I took a different approach. I started practising in front of people until it was okay for me to make mistakes in front of an audience and I felt the same way between playing to myself and playing in front of others.
You might also note that I make a distinction between playing and practising and performing. But that is the subject of another article.
What Do His Friends Call Him, Blues or Boy?
I remember an interview I heard from the great BB King on the radio years ago. He was asked by the interviewer if he ever made mistakes on stage in front of audiences. BB King obviously said yes and the interviewer asked him what he did about it.
After a little pause BB King replied that he made the mistake again and then again and he would keep doing it until people thought he meant to do it.
The idea of learning a new skills means that you are not already good at that skills and that means accepting that you will fail at using it at points. Are you are willing to accept that and use it as a celebration of the fact that at least you are using the new skills, finding where your limits are and even devising new exercises to develop from? If you are then this is a great way of rapidly boosting your progress.
Framing is the Heart of Success
There is a Buddhist saying that everything in life is a lesson or a test. Imagine if you really lived by that concept. It would mean that you would see progress in everything you did whether you succeed or not. How fantastic is that as a result?
The reality is probably you don’t do that over every area of your life but the more you do the more you gain. Here is a concept I like using when I am on a course of study.
Every time I use a skill, in an oversimplified way I will either succeed or fail. Both are equally important. If you succeed you need to look at what was key in creating that success and how you can install that. You also need to look at what is the next stretch to ensure you continue to develop.
If you didn’t succeed you will need to look at what you will do differently for next time as well as what other lessons and exercises you can take from this as drills that will help you succeed for the next.
Okay none of that sounds particularly special. But what if you took that, developed it as a hypnotic model and then installed into your way of thinking?
If you have read the Persuasion Skills Black Book you will see that is the structure I take the reader through.
If you want to know how to construct the various elements of that concept you will find all the components in the Advanced Persuasion Patterns Course right here.
If you want the whole structure, how you can apply it directly to your clients and even build it into your own unique presentations, trance inductions or stories I will be sharing the detail of it on this course.