Frame Control and Accelerated Learning

Rintu BasuAccelerated Learning6 Comments

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Here is a neat little idea for getting better results from your practice sessions. This works with any skills development but is often overlooked.

How do you feel about learning?

I first really noticed this when learning to play the guitar. When I was practicing a piece I would derive great enjoyment out of the bits I could play and get frustrated with the bits I couldn’t.

The more I would practice the difficult bits out of context the more I would build the frustration and negative emotional states into the piece. So even when I could play that bit I was finding difficult I was left feeling very different about it than the bit before and the bit afterwards.

The end result is that that little bit I found difficult to play would now sound different from the rest of the piece when put back in to context.

This article is really about about accelerated learning and hypnotic persuasion skills but here is a gratuitous picture of the office guitar anyway.

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How about learning hypnotic language?

I found that people learning hypnotic language patterns would go through a similar experience. Because they are so focused on getting the pattern “right” they would treat it differently from the rest of the conversation. That eventually results in them never being natural and fluent using language patterns because they never properly become part of the conversation.

If that is the problem what is the solution?

The important thing is to get into the right emotional state and keep hold of that. When I was a teenager and learning martial arts I had one sensei who really knew how to set frames. He would set up exercises where we would have to spar but at the same time maintain eye contact and smile. This already puts a completely different frame on a fight.

He would also send us into peripheral vision and using a flow state. This inherent made us more calm, relaxed and emotionally detached. Again this is a very different state to be in when fighting.

What is failure to you?

A few other things I do when learning any new skills is to make sure I have reframed failure to something good, fun or at least useful.

If you have ever learnt to play a musical instrument you will have encountered this particular issue. I would practice until I could play a piece. But then the first time I was in front of an audience whether it was my mother, my friends or a random stranger my playing would fall apart.

What I worked out from this was I was so invested in playing it “right” when I had some sort of audience that it changed my emotional state and therefore I could not play the same way as I did when I was alone.

Some novice musicians get round this by cutting themselves off from their audience when they play. You can see and often hear when musicians are playing to themselves and not their audience. I took a different approach. I started practising in front of people until it was okay for me to make mistakes in front of an audience and I felt the same way between playing to myself and playing in front of others.

You might also note that I make a distinction between playing and practising and performing. But that is the subject of another article.

What Do His Friends Call Him, Blues or Boy?

I remember an interview I heard from the great BB King on the radio years ago. He was asked by the interviewer if he ever made mistakes on stage in front of audiences. BB King obviously said yes and the interviewer asked him what he did about it.

After a little pause BB King replied that he made the mistake again and then again and he would keep doing it until people thought he meant to do it.

The idea of learning a new skills means that you are not already good at that skills and that means accepting that you will fail at using it at points. Are you are willing to accept that and use it as a celebration of the fact that at least you are using the new skills, finding where your limits are and even devising new exercises to develop from? If you are then this is a great way of rapidly boosting your progress.

Framing is the Heart of Success

There is a Buddhist saying that everything in life is a lesson or a test. Imagine if you really lived by that concept. It would mean that you would see progress in everything you did whether you succeed or not. How fantastic is that as a result?

The reality is probably you don’t do that over every area of your life but the more you do the more you gain. Here is a concept I like using when I am on a course of study.

Every time I use a skill, in an oversimplified way I will either succeed or fail. Both are equally important. If you succeed you need to look at what was key in creating that success and how you can install that. You also need to look at what is the next stretch to ensure you continue to develop.

If you didn’t succeed you will need to look at what you will do differently for next time as well as what other lessons and exercises you can take from this as drills that will help you succeed for the next.

Okay none of that sounds particularly special. But what if you took that, developed it as a hypnotic model and then installed into your way of thinking?

If you have read the Persuasion Skills Black Book you will see that is the structure I take the reader through.

If you want to know how to construct the various elements of that concept you will find all the components in the Advanced Persuasion Patterns Course right here.

If you want the whole structure, how you can apply it directly to your clients and even build it into your own unique presentations, trance inductions or stories I will be sharing the detail of it on this course.

Click Through to Find Out More and Book Right Here

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6 Comments on “Frame Control and Accelerated Learning”

  1. Robin

    Rintu . I do understand the techniques you are using around shifts in referential index , internal referencing and framing . The thing is I have always be taught in NLP to test your work so my questions are as follows :
    How/when would you set up your outcome?

    How would you know he had accepted your patterns and is willing to work with your instructions ?

    I have a bit of an issue with go through a pattern with someone and wondering whether they treat it as a throwaway comment or whether they act on it.

    Thanks

    Robin

    1. Rintu Basu

      Good Question Robin,

      Firstly in terms of setting outcomes I have a fluid approach that is constantly setting, changing and moving outcomes throughout any conversation. It sounds more complicated than it is and the intention is to only move on to the next part of the conversation once you have a result from the part that you are in.

      For example in a sales meeting I want the prospect to explore their needs before moving on to the consequences of those needs before presenting / matching the benefits of the product. And at each stage I will have some kind of behavioural marker to say it is time to move on.

      My expectation is not that any single pattern is necessarily going to create the result. I tend to want to keep going at a particular outcome until I have the result. In short the issue is not the pattern but the result, so I am tracking the conversational outcomes and letting the patterns work themselves.

      The overall frame for me is that you practice these patterns really hard when you don’t need them so that when you do the patterns just flow naturally allowing you to just focus on the outcomes.

      Hope that helps.

      R

  2. Gauld-Galliers, Oliver

    ‘It is where I start by talking about an experience and part of the way through I switch from using I language to using You language. This is a great way for you to start embedding a state, process or sequence in the reader…or more likely listener when you start to use it properly without them noticing. And then I switch back to I language and people barely register that little trance induction.’

    In the email, Rintu, you used one whilst talking about doing it, lol; nice.

    1. Rintu Basu

      Thanks for noticing Oliver,

      I was hoping someone would notice and comment. To make absolutely clear for others reading this; I sent out an email for this article with a pretty big demo of what we discuss in the article. Here is the salient bits of the email:

      “I have a really sneaky article for you today. On the outside it is about using frames and accelerated learning.

      The thing is I’ve embedded a sequence in it for the reader. It’s still about how you can use frames to help learn skills. But as you read it just checkout the sequence of internal representations that the reader is taken through.

      In particular note the sequence where I start using an I / You shift. NLP Jargon junkies call this a shift in referential index.

      It is where I start by talking about an experience and part of the way through I switch from using I language to using You language. This is a great way for you to start embedding a state, process or sequence in the reader…or more likely listener when you start to use it properly without them noticing. And then I switch back to I language and people barely register that little trance induction.

      I’m not going to say much else about it because I’ve found one of the best ways for you to learn is for you to do the analysis for yourself. Leave a comment about what you discover and I will confirm or deny that you are on the right track.

      Here is the article:”

      The hardest part of using hypnotic language is not to laugh out loud as you do this.

      Cheers

      R

  3. Sean

    Rintu, as an NLP practitioner and also an avid snooker player i honestly believe the concept of using your mistakes as a stepping stone to propel you to greater heights is a fantastic idea.

    Snooker is a game of perfection…you are consistently trying to gain perfect positioning on entry shit to make that shit and the following shots as simple as possible…this allows you to finish a frame in a single visit.

    Due to the nature of the ideology of perfection with regards to snooker some players use the mistakes to beat themselves up and treat themselves down…whilst ALL the truly great players use their mistakes to propel them to greater heights.

    Great snooker players analyze every single mistake…every missed ball…every time they run out of position…they scrutinize what caused that to happen….they break the shot down into its consummate parts…stance…bridge…grip…breathing…distance to cue ball…object ball…back swing….pause….weight of follow through…these individual aspects must all come together in perfect unison for the shot to be perfect and to pot the ball and gain position on the next ball.

    Great snooker players are simply modeling excellence in themselves…too many times i have allowed frustration at missing a ball to put more off my next shot…I have not modeled excellence in myself with regards to my snooker…however after reading this article it makes it glaringly obvious that that is exactly what i should be doing if i want to improve my snooker. I should see each and ever missed ball and bad positional shot as a chance to improve my performance.

    I know this article is primarily about language patterns…however as an NLP practitioner you know that we take what we need from each and every situation and disguard what we have no use for….and there is no failure only feedback. My feedback for you is that I’m grateful that you write this article…it has highlighted what immediate actions i can take to improve my game….as a life long snooker fan and a NLP practitioner…..Thank you

    1. Rintu Basu

      Sean, Thank you. Completely agree, the generally pattern works for any skills development. I just focus on language only because that is what most of my audience are here for. But the power of this approach is to use it for everything. Thanks for posting, it is a great demonstration of how this can work for more than just language and guitars.

      Now I wonder if there is a gol;fer reading these articles that would like to comment on how this impacts their game?

      R

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