Covert Hypnosis Example – It doesn’t get any better than this

Rintu BasuMind Control3 Comments

Precious family moments

The following is an excerpt from The Persuasion Skills Black Book as an example of a great use of several language patterns.

NLP Language Pattern Example

Lots of people have baggage about NLP and Conversational Hypnosis thinking that it is manipulative and being used for bad purposes. The truth is, people with this sort of baggage are really telling you something about themselves, about their fears and even more about the direction their minds think in.

Are Hypnotic Language Patterns Manipulative?

Of course, they are…all communications is manipulative. And people asking that question are usually trying to manipulate you into thinking that it’s a bad thing and that we should all be like them.

I am only talking to you to be heard, amongst my many other agendas, such as seeking approval, selling courses and wanting to be understood. The issue is not manipulation but intent. In the same way as any tools you can use them with good intent helping yourself and others or by mistake, negligence or intent use them to harm. The tool is not the issue, just your intent when using it.

Perfect Language Pattern Example

A little while ago I was sent a perfect example of a set of language patterns from Dr Tom. I am not going to explain the patterns because you will find them on the free persuasion skills course. There are several sets of patterns going through this that I don’t think Dr Tom is even aware of, but anyone who mails me with a good analysis of all the things going on in this example will get published. Anyway here is Dr Tom’s email in full as a perfect example of when to use a set of patterns, perfect delivery of those patterns and a perfect result. It really doesn’t get better than this.

Hi Rintu,

Thank you again for providing such great and useful information. Here is how it was applies and you have my full permission to use, print or publish any part of this email, without using my real name.

My daughter came home from school with a low test grade (a 73). We have to sign off on all of her tests, (she is an excellent student) and I could tell she was a little nervous and uncomfortable/upset about showing me this one. I said to her:

“Sweetheart (she is 12 years old), I agree that this is not a very good grade, but you have made the Honor Roll for the past three semesters, you are a very smart girl, and I am very proud of you.

The issue isn’t how you did on this one test, but how excellent you have done in all of your other classes, you have a perfect attendance record and you have excelled in band (she plays the saxophone), chorus, softball, and basketball. And after we go over this test together, you will know the material as well as anyone who scored an A on the test, and that’s what’s really important, isn’t it?

I love you and know you will do better the next time.”

Well, she went from being nervous and worrying that I would be disappointed in her, to beaming with confidence and being proud of herself. She gave me a big hug and a kiss and said, “Thanks dad, I love you.”

It doesn’t get any better than that.

Thanks Rintu.

Sincerely,

Dr. Tom

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3 Comments on “Covert Hypnosis Example – It doesn’t get any better than this”

  1. Harvs81

    Hey Rintu,
    Only just stumbled across nlp by coincidence yesterday and after recognising a few concepts that had a familiarity to them (not to mention the poker context lol) I read on a little.
    Not usually one for comments, more of an observer, felt inclined to try this deconstruction.

    Here we go…
    -Dr Tom builds rapport by bestowing praise on you and the amazing positive impact your work has had right from the get go. We all love praise, so great start. (Taking the upperhand by inducing a good feeling?)
    -He then immediately states he is going to show you an example of how he applied your ideas, reminding you that he is the pupil n you the teacher. (Intentional submission seeking approval?)
    -Giving you permission to publish, where the student would perhaps hope for publication not assume the teachers desire to publish. (Regains assertive stance?)
    -Tells you a story about his daughters anguish at a one off bad grade, makes you feel sorry for her (sob story=great interest/concern)

    Thats enough about his interaction with you for know…

    Interaction with daughter consists of…
    -Term of endearment (Straightaway lowers her level misconcieved fear/threat)
    -(Back to you for a second, poor dear is only 12y.o…. *you sigh*/*or perhaps implying isn’t it funny how easy they upset at that age* and keeping you involved)
    -He then makes her RIGHT that “this” IS “not a very good grade” (as opposed to a bad one… steering well clear of any negative language or relation between the “this grade” and “her”) makes this irrelevant with a good old BUT (forget that and focus on…)
    -From hear reminds her that “she” is great, smart etc. AND (…and also this) that he, who’s approval she was seeking, approves highly of her.
    -Now it is safe to tell her she is wrong, for feeling bad. BUT (forget all that…)
    -That grade is not a reflection of your ability, praise AND (remember all that…) praise, (quick acknowledgement to the reader, I haven’t forgotten your there and I need to throw out some rapport, as well as stop the possibility of your focus getting stuck at the question of: what instrument does she play???), praise, praise AND (aswell as that multitude of talents,this one too!) Praise
    -AND… after we tackle this as a team (as equals) you will be as good as the highest achievers (superior to the majority again/promotion of self worth)
    -AND that’s what’s ‘really’ important (I think the use of ‘really’ subtly make’s sure that a bad grade is still not unimportant), isn’t it? (Crucially finishes by stating what he wants her to think as a fact disguised as a question… She ultimately believes she makes up her own mind with the guidance of a parent and hasn’t just been told by the parent what to think)
    -More endearment AND belief in you “I KNOW you will do better next time” (Command: you WILL do better next time)

    Interaction turns back to you…
    -Well, etc…(proud intro with pause)
    -Explains to you the outcome of the situation n how he saved the day (sad story with a happy ending=sales, sales, sales)
    -Tells you about the gratitude and huge amounts of praise bestowed on him. Followed by the the statement “It doesn’t get any better than that” (Shows how much he values praise? Which has gotta be good if your a prospective client or employer for example, because you can expect a job well done out of his pursuit for praise… As the student he may have sold you the master into awarding that very same praise, or perhaps with such a definitive statement, should you be handing over the keys to the managers office lol

    All round out with one last thanks and the all important seal of sincerety.

    Whoa…

    Do you think my usual role of quiet observer may be in direct correlation to my tendancy for over-analysed long-windedness lol

    As i said at the top all very new to me so not sure on terminology or if much of the above is relevant to the field, rather enjoyed the mental workout tho and would really appreciate any sort of feedback.

    Thanks

    1. Rintu Basu

      Hi Harvs81,
                         I’ve got nothing to add. THat is a really good deconstruction made eve better being new to the game. Well Done.

      I’m going to send people to this page to see what they make of it.

      Cheers

      Rintu

    2. Ivan

      Dear RIntu,

      Please read within the brackets below (………) what in my view is lurking behind Tom’s e-mail and your quoting it :

      Rintu’s using ‘’Dr.Tom’’ = (My friend John technique i.e. 3d party pattern=3dP tells the reader what otherwise needs come directly from Rintu and thus face resistance by default)..

      ” Hi Rintu,

      Thank you again for providing such great and useful information (3dP appraisal vs Rintu praising himself, acknowledgment ) . Here is how it was applies and you have my full permission (permission granting, authority) to use, print or publish any part of this email, without using my real name (mystery, secrecy, even scarcity) .

      My daughter came home from school with a low test grade (a 73). We have
      to sign off on all of her tests, (she is an excellent student= contrast ) and I could tell she was a little nervous and uncomfortable/upset about showing me this one. I said to her ( using quotes to bypass resistance & critical evaluation) :

      “Sweetheart (rapport builder) (she is 12 years old), I agree/agreement reinforcer) that this is not a very good grade ( pacing, rapport),
      but you have made the Honor Roll for the past three semesters(pacing, appraisal, rapport), you are a very smart girl (compliment)/, and I am very proud of you.( positive reaffirmation+ time regression focusing on past successes and peak performances instead of current mishaps ).

      The issue isn’t how you did on this one test ( reframing
      ‘’ not this, but that ‘’ ), but how excellent you have done in all of
      your other classes( time regression, appraisal), you have a perfect attendance record (positive affirmation ) and you have excelled in band (pacing, flattery, positive affirmation , rapport) (she plays the saxophone), chorus, softball, and basketball. And after we go over this test together(temporal predicate & hypnotic pattern, anticipation builder), you will know ( embedded suggestion ) the material as well as(/single bind ) anyone who scored an A on the test, and that’s what’s really(utilization & hypnotic word) important (nominalization ), isn’t it (tag question) ?

      I love you and know( mind-read) you will do better the next time( presupposition= there will be a next time ).”

      Well, she went from being nervous and worrying that I would be
      disappointed in her, to beaming with confidence and being proud of herself. She gave me a big hug and a kiss and said (3dP, extended quotes = Rintu quotes Tom quoting Tom’s daughter ), “Thanks dad, I love you.”

      It doesn’t get any better than that(utilization).

      Thanks Rintu. ”

      Ivan

      Dr. Tom

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