Comments on: Motivation and NLP Persuasive Techniques http://www.thenlpcompany.com/motivation-and-nlp-persuasive-techniques/ Free NLP Techniques, Persuasion Techniques, Conversational Hypnosis Fri, 06 Jan 2012 04:20:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Rintu Basu http://www.thenlpcompany.com/motivation-and-nlp-persuasive-techniques/#comment-97883 Rintu Basu Tue, 03 Jan 2012 17:43:00 +0000 http://www.thenlpcompany.com/motivation-and-nlp-persuasive-techniques/#comment-97883 Thanks for commenting, there is loads of good stuff in what you say. I agree there is no win / win here because our two goals are mutually exclusive. And if you chunk up a level we are both after one thing and that is to park our cars and get on with the next things that we need to do. I think I am facilitating that man to getting what he wants, which has nothing really to do with parking spaces. My point is very similar to where you are with this. Whilst I stay at the same level as this guy we are at loggerheads because we are both at a fixed position and both believe we are right. By getting above the problem I am no longer trying to get him to see or agree with my position I am looking at ways of getting him to fulfil his objectives without interfering with mine. Thanks for saying about me as well. I live in a world of grey areas, having to make decisions and where things sometimes don't work. I am also a human being with emotions, faults and favours. I like to think I always do the right thing and will have to admit I sometimes fall very short of that mark. My opinion is that if I am to train people to use these tool they should see them in that light and that context. I have never liked those trainers that want to tell you that they live in a perfect world, always getting perfect results with their perfect tools and techniques. So thanks for noticing and even more thanks for pointing it out. Cheers Rintu Thanks for commenting, there is loads of good stuff in what you say.

I agree there is no win / win here because our two goals are mutually exclusive. And if you chunk up a level we are both after one thing and that is to park our cars and get on with the next things that we need to do. I think I am facilitating that man to getting what he wants, which has nothing really to do with parking spaces.

My point is very similar to where you are with this. Whilst I stay at the same level as this guy we are at loggerheads because we are both at a fixed position and both believe we are right. By getting above the problem I am no longer trying to get him to see or agree with my position I am looking at ways of getting him to fulfil his objectives without interfering with mine.

Thanks for saying about me as well. I live in a world of grey areas, having to make decisions and where things sometimes don’t work. I am also a human being with emotions, faults and favours. I like to think I always do the right thing and will have to admit I sometimes fall very short of that mark. My opinion is that if I am to train people to use these tool they should see them in that light and that context. I have never liked those trainers that want to tell you that they live in a perfect world, always getting perfect results with their perfect tools and techniques. So thanks for noticing and even more thanks for pointing it out.

Cheers

Rintu

]]> By: Advancedmindmanagement http://www.thenlpcompany.com/motivation-and-nlp-persuasive-techniques/#comment-97882 Advancedmindmanagement Tue, 03 Jan 2012 02:34:00 +0000 http://www.thenlpcompany.com/motivation-and-nlp-persuasive-techniques/#comment-97882 Isn't it sometimes hard to make the right choices? Both of you had your own valid reasons. I can imagine that the guy, like you, waited for hours, to get into this particular parking lot, and most likely, it wasn't easy to find the right spot inside of the place, once inside. As such, your statement that there are other parking lots available for him might have been your imagination.  There was no win-win here, and only the person with the strongest hammer could win - which was you, as you had so much more time to wait it out. Being in a car with kids and having to wait for another period of time is horrible. On the other hand you could have used the one hour available to you to find another spot just as well, and leave behind an extremely grateful and appreciative family.  In a situation like this, it is not easy to make the right decision. Emotions are running high and we just want to beat our chest stronger.  Rational decisions are tough. Honestly, I admire you that you were still able to formulate some language patterns. Most of us would have just come out with the usual "bla-bla-bla".   It shows that you are real great at it. I admire as well that you are openly share these stories. Not everyone in the NLP community shows that they have weaknesses and most want to show that they are beyond any emotions as they are in charge of their mind and brain. LOL. I leave it at this, Rintu. Thanks for sharing and I always appreciate your sharing!!! Isn’t it sometimes hard to make the right choices? Both of you had your own valid reasons. I can imagine that the guy, like you, waited for hours, to get into this particular parking lot, and most likely, it wasn’t easy to find the right spot inside of the place, once inside. As such, your statement that there are other parking lots available for him might have been your imagination. 

There was no win-win here, and only the person with the strongest hammer could win – which was you, as you had so much more time to wait it out. Being in a car with kids and having to wait for another period of time is horrible. On the other hand you could have used the one hour available to you to find another spot just as well, and leave behind an extremely grateful and appreciative family. 

In a situation like this, it is not easy to make the right decision. Emotions are running high and we just want to beat our chest stronger.  Rational decisions are tough. Honestly, I admire you that you were still able to formulate some language patterns. Most of us would have just come out with the usual “bla-bla-bla”.  

It shows that you are real great at it. I admire as well that you are openly share these stories. Not everyone in the NLP community shows that they have weaknesses and most want to show that they are beyond any emotions as they are in charge of their mind and brain. LOL.

I leave it at this, Rintu. Thanks for sharing and I always appreciate your sharing!!!

]]> By: Rintu Basu http://www.thenlpcompany.com/motivation-and-nlp-persuasive-techniques/#comment-97880 Rintu Basu Mon, 02 Jan 2012 18:14:00 +0000 http://www.thenlpcompany.com/motivation-and-nlp-persuasive-techniques/#comment-97880 Thanks for saying Dene, Here is a connected article which I think relates to a lot of what you are talking about: http://www.thenlpcompany.com/nlp-trainers-lies-bullies-and-metaphor/ Cheers R Thanks for saying Dene,

Here is a connected article which I think relates to a lot of what you are talking about:

http://www.thenlpcompany.com/nlp-trainers-lies-bullies-and-metaphor/

Cheers

R

]]> By: Dene http://www.thenlpcompany.com/motivation-and-nlp-persuasive-techniques/#comment-97879 Dene Mon, 02 Jan 2012 17:38:00 +0000 http://www.thenlpcompany.com/motivation-and-nlp-persuasive-techniques/#comment-97879 Excellent article, Rintu!  I can see many parallels for me that happen when I give up my own (metaphorically speaking) parking space- many times I find out that the other person has many more resources (metaphorical parking spaces they might even prefer) and choices.  Even though I tell myself things like "They needed 'it' more than I do", I want to begin standing up for myself with people who do enjoy getting their way through manipulation or trickery.   Resolving problems like reasonable adults using well-crafted and intentional words is much preferred, and building rapport (a common ground at the beginning of a conversation) makes sense as a starting place.  Excellent article, Rintu!  I can see many parallels for me that happen when I give up my own (metaphorically speaking) parking space- many times I find out that the other person has many more resources (metaphorical parking spaces they might even prefer) and choices.  Even though I tell myself things like “They needed ‘it’ more than I do”, I want to begin standing up for myself with people who do enjoy getting their way through manipulation or trickery.   Resolving problems like reasonable adults using well-crafted and intentional words is much preferred, and building rapport (a common ground at the beginning of a conversation) makes sense as a starting place. 

]]> By: Rintu Basu http://www.thenlpcompany.com/motivation-and-nlp-persuasive-techniques/#comment-97876 Rintu Basu Sat, 31 Dec 2011 13:38:00 +0000 http://www.thenlpcompany.com/motivation-and-nlp-persuasive-techniques/#comment-97876 Hee Hee, I think I probably sound a lot more brutal than I really was. For the most part I am a complete pussy cat... just when you catch me on a point of principle I get all stroppy. If he had turned round and started throwing patterns at me I would even have parked his car for him. R Hee Hee, I think I probably sound a lot more brutal than I really was. For the most part I am a complete pussy cat… just when you catch me on a point of principle I get all stroppy.

If he had turned round and started throwing patterns at me I would even have parked his car for him.

R

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