The Following is an excerpt from The Persuasion Skills Black Book as an example of a great use of several langauge patterns.
Lots of people have baggage about NLP and Conversational Hypnosis thinking that it is manipulative and being used for bad purposes. The truth is, people with this sort of baggage are really telling you something about themselves, about their fears and even more about the direction their minds think in.
Of course they are…all communications is manipulative. And people asking that question are usually trying to manipulate you in to thinking that it’s a bad thing and that we should all be like them.
I am only talking to you to be heard, amongst my many other agendas, such as seeking approval, selling courses and wanting to be understood. The issue is not manipulation but intent. In the same way as any tools you can use them with good intent helping yourself and others or by mistake, negligence or intent use them to harm. The tool is not the issue, just your intent when using it.
A little while ago I was sent a perfect example of a set of language patterns from Dr Tom. I am not going to explain the patterns because you will find them on the free persuasion skills course. There are several sets of patterns going through this that I don’t think Dr Tom is even aware of, but anyone who mails me with a good analysis of all the things going on in this example will get published. Anyway here is Dr Tom’s email in full as a perfect example of when to use a set of patterns, perfect delivery of those patterns and a perfect result. It really doesn’t get better than this.
Hi Rintu,
Thank you again for providing such great and useful information. Here is how it was applies and you have my full permission to use, print or publish any part of this email, without using my real name.
My daughter came home from school with a low test grade (a 73). We have to sign off on all of her tests, (she is an excellent student) and I could tell she was a little nervous and uncomfortable/upset about showing me this one. I said to her:
“Sweetheart (she is 12 years old), I agree that this is not a very good grade, but you have made the Honor Roll for the past three semesters, you are a very smart girl, and I am very proud of you.
The issue isn’t how you did on this one test, but how excellent you have done in all of your other classes, you have a perfect attendance record and you have excelled in band (she plays the saxophone), chorus, softball, and basketball. And after we go over this test together, you will know the material as well as anyone who scored an A on the test, and that’s what’s really important, isn’t it?
I love you and know you will do better the next time.”
Well, she went from being nervous and worrying that I would be disappointed in her, to beaming with confidence and being proud of herself. She gave me a big hug and a kiss and said, “Thanks dad, I love you.”
It doesn’t get any better than that.
Thanks Rintu.
Sincerely,
Dr. Tom
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Posted: 07|4|08 at 3:06 pm.
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