I have had a few emails asking for ideas on how to practice patterns NLP Hypnotic Language Patterns. This is about a practice drill for the agreement frame and redefine patterns from the first part of The Persuasion Skills Black Book.
Firstly let me overstate several key points from the book:
- Do the Drills to Get the Skills
- Ten minutes a Day is worth more than One Hour a Week
- Only PERFECT practice makes PERFECT
- The Purpose of Practice is to Practice
So taking these things in mind here is a quick drill that is worth doing. Ideally you should have a study buddy or at least someone that won’t get fazed by having a bizarre conversation with you. That said I do this exercise live with people that don’t know I am doing it (although they soon know something is different and start getting frustrated).
The object of the exercise is to get you thinking in terms of the patterns, get used to thinking on your feet and saying them out loud.
The exercise is very simple. Everything you say in the conversation needs to start with the agreement frame and then move into a redefine. If you are ding this in a live situation the extra element is to keep it going for as long as possible without the other person realising. Here is an example:
Person (P); The credit crunch is really hitting some businesses.
Me (M); I agree some businesses are hit with the credit crunch and the issue is not the businesses that are going under but how your business is doing. How are you doing?
P; Actually I still have all my usual customers and business seems okay.
M; I agree business seems okay if you are keeping your customers and the issue is not your customer base but how you are expanding your business.
P; I’m not really thinking of expanding my business at the moment because I think it is important to play safe in the current environment.
M; I almost agree with you and would add the issue is not playing safe but making sure you have plans for the future. Do you have an exit strategy for the business?
P; There is something strange about the way you are speaking to me. Are you using that weird hypnosis stuff on me?
M; I can see how you might be thinking that, but the issue is not about doing weird hypnosis stuff but practicing and developing my skills do you want to know how I am doing that?
P; Yes
M; Okay…I agree you want to know how I am practicing my skills and the issue now is not my practice but how to get you to learn some basic language patterns that bypass conscious resistance. Would you like to learn a few?
P; Only if you stop this strange way of speaking.
M; I agree it can sound a bit weird and the issue is not how it sounds but if I am getting some good practice. The only issue now is that it is so ingrained I can’t stop.
And so on until they buy a copy of the book
Have you got the idea?
Obviously if you have a study buddy or someone that is willing to stooge for you there will be opportunities to move in some wild and wacky directions. The issue is to keep going regardless even if you have to stop to think, stumble or backtrack over your words. Remember these things happen naturally when people are speaking anyway. So the fact that it happens when you are using patterns is just as natural. Let it happen and just move on as if nothing has happened.
BB King and Persuasion Skills
This reminds me of an interview I heard from BB King on the radio many years ago. The interviewer asked BB King if, as an extremely accomplished and experienced guitarist he ever plays a bum note. BB King replied obviously he does and does so more frequently than people would credit.
The interviewer then asked BB King how he covered up these mistakes. There was a long pause and then BB King replied “I play the bum note again and again and again, eventually people think I meant to do it.” Taking this approach to language patterns will give you a great advantage.
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Posted: 01|14|09 at 7:03 pm.
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February 18th, 2009 at 3:54 am
Thanks for the suggestion of a different exercise to practise the patterns.
I’d agree the more practise the better, and add that the person seems to react to what is being done quickly, usually consisting of loss of rapport, and an untimely, awkward end with their quick departure. No one has said ‘what are you doing?’ If the words used are varied on every reply it can last longer, though I’d add I tend to run out of different ways of saying the same thing, especially ‘live’.
I’d also agree that if I were able to maintain rapport whatever happened, a different outcome may be possible. I look forward to the rapport material next on the course.
February 18th, 2009 at 1:32 pm
Hi Cameron,
I agree it is not always easy to find new ways of saying the same pattern and the issue is just about practicing the flexibility.
I also agree with you about the rapport and would add that sometimes when I have really good rapport they start responding with the same patterns back at me and it turns into a pattern party…Whne you get this you know you have really cracked the issue.
Cheers
Rintu
February 18th, 2009 at 10:22 pm
Hi Rintu,
Appreciate the reply, and enjoyed the rapport video.
March 27th, 2009 at 3:23 pm
Great info and cool site aswell. Bookmarked!
January 1st, 2010 at 5:03 pm
Thanks for the awesome post, it helped me out a lot.