Comments on: NLP Rapport Building and Sensory Acuity Part Two http://www.thenlpcompany.com/techniques/nlp-rapport-building-and-sensory-acuity-part-two/ Free NLP Techniques, Persuasion Techniques, Conversational Hypnosis Mon, 15 Mar 2010 03:41:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: Rintu Basu http://www.thenlpcompany.com/techniques/nlp-rapport-building-and-sensory-acuity-part-two/#comment-7997 Rintu Basu Wed, 16 Dec 2009 14:49:56 +0000 http://www.thenlpcompany.com/techniques/nlp-rapport-building-and-sensory-acuity-part-two/#comment-7997 Hi Andrea, Thanks for taking the time to write this brilliant reply. I don't know what the technique is either...but it worked really well and that is all that matters. Thanks for taking the time to post this. Rintu Hi Andrea,
Thanks for taking the time to write this brilliant reply. I don’t know what the technique is either…but it worked really well and that is all that matters. Thanks for taking the time to post this.

Rintu

]]> By: Andrea http://www.thenlpcompany.com/techniques/nlp-rapport-building-and-sensory-acuity-part-two/#comment-7992 Andrea Tue, 15 Dec 2009 20:31:23 +0000 http://www.thenlpcompany.com/techniques/nlp-rapport-building-and-sensory-acuity-part-two/#comment-7992 Great website. Not sure what this technique is but it worked beautifully this weekend with my husband. He kept accusing me of acting superior, competing with him and making him feel stupid. He said "I'm tired of being second class....no, I'm STEERAGE!" That was all I needed to turn it around. I began telling a story about being on a passenger ship, I was in first class and I gestured by holding my right hand above my head, and I said second is below, and steerage at the bottom (all with accompanying hand gesture). I asked him to describe first class passengers. He said "educated, wealthy, successful..." and then I asked him to describe steerage..."stupid, uneducated, broke..." Then I asked him if first class passengers have to prove to steerage that they are first class. He said "Of course not. They're first class. They are secure in who they are." Then I lowered my voice and asked "Then who is doing the competing?" He got very quiet and started crying. I put my right hand on his shoulder and said "Who is competing?" He said "Steerage." I said "No Brian, you are competing with me." Then I did am embedded command with the down turn. "You need to 'stop competing with me'" It was a MAJOR breakthrough in our relationship. My husband is like a new man already. I also took the opportunity to use the passenger ship metaphor to explain that he and I are both first class that like to sneak down to steerage occassionally because it's more fun. Next up....using NLP commands and patterns to get a better job. I'll keep you all posted on results. Great website. Not sure what this technique is but it worked beautifully this weekend with my husband. He kept accusing me of acting superior, competing with him and making him feel stupid. He said “I’m tired of being second class….no, I’m STEERAGE!” That was all I needed to turn it around.

I began telling a story about being on a passenger ship, I was in first class and I gestured by holding my right hand above my head, and I said second is below, and steerage at the bottom (all with accompanying hand gesture). I asked him to describe first class passengers. He said “educated, wealthy, successful…” and then I asked him to describe steerage…”stupid, uneducated, broke…” Then I asked him if first class passengers have to prove to steerage that they are first class. He said “Of course not. They’re first class. They are secure in who they are.” Then I lowered my voice and asked “Then who is doing the competing?”

He got very quiet and started crying. I put my right hand on his shoulder and said “Who is competing?” He said “Steerage.” I said “No Brian, you are competing with me.” Then I did am embedded command with the down turn.

“You need to ’stop competing with me’”

It was a MAJOR breakthrough in our relationship. My husband is like a new man already. I also took the opportunity to use the passenger ship metaphor to explain that he and I are both first class that like to sneak down to steerage occassionally because it’s more fun.

Next up….using NLP commands and patterns to get a better job. I’ll keep you all posted on results.

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