Yesterday I put out an article highlighting the shortcomings about some training courses that I have noticed and that I think occur in a lot of NLP Training. Here is the promised follow up article about four things you should watch for when looking for personal development training.
1) Know what you want
This has to be the biggest failing in booking personal development work. If you don’t know what you want then how is anyone going to be able to supply it for you. There are some tree-hugging nut jobs that want to go on a personal exploration, gazing at their own and often other people’s navels whilst balancing their charick inner yogurts. I generally suggest that they should save the thousands of pounds they are throwing at a course and just go for a walk in the park, buy a lentil sandwich and work on developing a clear idea of what they want to get from a course.
I want people to know what they want from the course because then they can give the trainers a hard time before booking the course to see if the content will give them what they want. Doing this and getting affirmative answers sets preframes for the course that are great for you and the trainers. You both have markers for success and everyone’s minds are focused on getting the results.
2) Replace the emotions with real skills development
Lots of personal development courses seem to have been taken over by the Rah Rah Brigade. The courses seem to involve lots of loud music, leaping about and hugging random strangers. If this is your thing who am I to get in the way of your hobbies and interests, all I ask is that you don’t confuse this with gaining any real skills development.
I fell out with a particular NLP Trainer I had the misfortune to associate with a number of years back. The challenge I had with him was getting him to understand that there is more to skills development than emotions. For example if you want to be an accountant it would be useful if you were excited by accountancy, but you need to learn the knowledge and gain the skills before you could call yourself an accountant. It did not matter how excited you were about accountancy you can’t be an accountant until you have learnt the skills. Imagine getting on a plane and the announcement came over the intercom that your pilot has not been to flight school be is very excited and enthusiastic about aeroplanes. I could never quite get this NLP Trainer to understand that emotions are useful but they do not replace real skills.
A key issue around a lot of personal development is that they generate lots of excitement and energy and then that becomes a mask to the fact that they don’t give you any real skills. Make sure any course you are thinking of going on has real skills that you want to learn to impart.
3) Does this work in your real world?
I’ve spent a fair bit of time working in business environments undoing the damage certain types of trainers do. Let me explain a typical story I have seen many times over. Little Miss Reki Hopi Earwax ReflexTherapist decided she needs a few extra skills to help her home therapy business and books onto an NLP course. She gets some great results, boosts her confidence and skills so she joins the NLP multi-level marketing scheme and does her Master Prac and Trainer’s Training.
Now that she is an NLP Trainer the next thing she will do is run some NLP Training courses. This is all great when she is training other Reflex Earwax Therapists because she knows how to translate these skills into that environment and can genuinely give her students the benefit of her experiences.
But by some quirk of fate she ends up being hired by, for example an international firm of corporate lawyers who are looking for state management under extreme stress, investigative interview techniques and emotional presentation techniques. How well do you think her skills and experience are now going to cut it?
The key point I am making is when looking at your trainers make sure they have the training skills to translate their material to how you would use it in your environment.
4) Post Training Support
Another thing that happens a lot with training is people get a great result on the course but this quickly fades away when they get home. As you will have seen in my article about a Systems Approach to Training to integrate the skills back into your life takes work. If you don’t make a conscious effort to use the skills then they will not become integrated. One of the easiest ways of doing this is to use a coach. Any great personal development course will build in some element of coaching to support you back into your normal environment.
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