This article is about a few examples of basic language patterns and how you can become a real master very quickly.
NLP Language Patterns, How to Learn Them and Make Them Work
Here is an email I was sent recently from Jack:
Sent: Fri 24/09/2010 11:09
I have just started your book (The Persuasion Skills Black Book: Rintu) and 21 pages in I can already see the huge benefits gained from your techniques! I was trying to apply the patterns to my experiences and one thing popped into my mind. When I was sixteen, I got caught at school trying my first cannabis “joint”; needless to say, I got caught, broken down and suspended for 6 weeks. But I believe, using your patterns, this could have gone much more differently.
“I agree, smoking cannabis is bad. But I must add that it is not the real problem here, but under what circumstances have led a continuously bright and good student to do so. Perhaps more importantly, what you as senior staff members, whom have deep responsibility over my development, will do to ensure this hiccup does not disadvantage me from that development.”
I believe this represents a great win-win scenario (considering, of course, that it would have worked – which I believe it may). I can’t wait to read the rest.
Reframing Getting Caught
There are two things I would like to point out about what Jack is doing that will really accelerate his growth in terms of learning patterns. The first is just that he is taking patterns and finding times and places where it would work for him.
Reframes for Your Past
Your unconscious mind and your memories are malleable, I am sure you have seen stories about false memory syndrome and witnesses seeing things at a crime scene that could not have been there. One that is a fairly common experience is talking with close friends about a common experience from the past. Often it feels like they were at a completely different event and I am sure you may have experienced this sort of thing.
Why this happens is beyond the scope of this article, we are just going to look at how we can use this effect to accelerate our learning of hypnotic language patterns. What Jack has done is gone back into his past, found a situation that would be an ideal situation to apply his pattern and imagined how he would have applied it and the impact it would have.
We know this is not what actually happened but by playing a real memory and twisting it to what might have happened if you had used your pattern will get your unconscious mind more comfortable with using the pattern. One of the ways you form beliefs is by repetition of events. For example every time you let go of something it falls to the floor. You form a belief about gravity, how it works and how you will use this effect in the future (only letting go of things that you want to fall to the floor).
Run through your memories finding different events and going through how you could have used your patterns. You will quickly find yourself becoming more comfortable, confident and used to playing with these patterns. The reason is that your unconscious mind will be starting to feel like you have always used these patterns.
Win / Win Situations
The second thing Jack really does well here to is create a win / win situation and a great reframe on how these staff members should be looking at the situation. Often when patterns don’t work it is because the direction you point the subject towards is not a direction that they would like. What Jack does here is drop them directly into something they should have deep responsibility for and then asks them what they are going to do about it.
Looking at the situation and the motivations of the other person is fundamental in getting our NLP Persuasion Patterns right.
If you want to explore conversational belief changes one such method is hinted at in the article above and is explored fully in the Advanced Persuasion Patterns Programme.
If you want to covertly explore people’s values and motivations then the Advanced Persuasion Patterns Programme has a lot of material that is worth looking at.
If you are interested in looking at Advanced Persuasion Patterns then click through this link to explore one of the most comprehensive NLP Persuasion Skills Programmes on the Internet.
And Finally, Using Your But to Get Out of Trouble
I don’t know if Jack knew he was doing this and either way I think he should take credit for a brilliant piece of linguistic manoeuvring.
Read his statement again and notice that he agrees that “smoking cannabis is bad”…rather than any statement about his smoking of the cannabis. Then notice that he follows this up with the word “but”. Normally we would use an “and” here to connect the agreement with the reframe. By using a “but” Jack is creating distance from the problem so the staff can fully associate into the positive effects of working on how to improve Jack’s development.
Could you think of these patterns on the spot? Absolutely you can once you ingrain and over-train them. The way to do this is laid out in detail in The Persuasion Skills Black Book.