The Art of the NLP Reframe

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Here is an article for you about a particular NLP Technique that is about altering your perception or the meaning you associate with an event.

spork-illusion-300x200I don’t know about you but when I am in a low mood it is easy for me to focus on the “bad” stuff in my life and as a consequence I get to feel even worse. Generally I am a hardnosed pragmatist so I tend to not like the sort of sweetness and light brigade with their flock of angels to guide and keep them.

That said there is usually something useful in a lot of new age woo woo. Take the idea of a gratitude diary. When I am feeling down I tend to focus on negativity, regrets and beating myself up for what I “should have” done with my life (I can hear my father’s voice saying, “When are you going to get a proper job” as I write this.)

But here is a thing. I also know that I am thinking this way because of my state. I don’t necessarily want to feel great because there is stuff going on in my life right now that I don’t feel good about. But I also know my value and place in the world is not just about my mood. All you need is to pick yourself up enough and get stuff done to get to a better position.

Focus on the Positive, Be More Productive

And think about this for a moment. When you are in a good mood, well not even in a good mood, just a productive or optimistic state life is easier to deal with and you find it easier to get yourself out of any hole you find yourself in.

So in a bizarre way being in a better mood will allow you to improve the situation that created the negative mood in the first place. So one of the things I do when I am feeling particularly negative is deliberately focus on things that I am proud of, things that fulfil my core values and that make me feel good about myself.

How to Succeed Even When You Are Drowning in Clichés

I am slightly different from many of the usual personal development people. I like being a little on the dark side. I want to know how to make a success of yourself when the chips are down, the wheel has come off and you are sinking.

Putting together a high performance team is a great skill. But I really want to learn how to still win when everyone in the team wants to kill each other and the competition are better skilled and equipped.

You can probably tell me better but I think this is one of the things that makes my take on all this personal development material a little different from the crowd.

Using NLP for CV Writing and Interview Skills

I was looking at the NLP Job Hunting Course the last couple of days because I know people have had some spectacular results from that. A couple of things hit me quite strongly as I looked through the course.

The first was the story of Sharon (not her real name) who used the material to go from a dead end job to a job that was a lot better but she found out that she didn’t enjoy. In the space of a couple of years she used the system to change her job twice more until she found herself in a fantastic position that she thoroughly enjoyed. And now she has her career firmly in her hands.

The other one that I looked at was a young lad looking for a job that was far beyond his experience and age range. David reframed his youth and inexperience as a positive benefit and framed the interview in that light. He got the job easily and the interviewer even commented how great it would be to have some youthful energy and insight into the team.

But the thing that really changed my mood was when I remember some of the stuff I had done when researching the course. I don’t ever recommend doing this, if you are properly on a job hunt I would stick rigidly to the truth.

But I was researching job hunting techniques and wanted to know how far I could push things and what works. So I put in a fake CV for a high powered job, got found out within minutes of the start of the interview and after admitting to lying on my CV and telling them I had none of the key skills they were looking for I was still offered the job.

My frame on this experience is simply, “If you are capable of that…what else can you achieve.” The truth is I don’t expect you to be able to do this as the norm. I don’t think I could do it that easily now but at the time I was at the top of my game and had practiced a lot of these techniques incessantly every day.

But here is the thing, in the NLP Job Hunting Course I deconstruct the process completely. So the only thing that separates you from having that skill at that level is the experience and practice. The reality though is you only need a little bit of this to outperform most of the usual job hunters.

Simple Shifts in Perception Create Powerful Results

My evidence for this the hundreds of emails I get from people telling me they have found their dream job. The one I got today (Tues 24th) was from a guy in a niche position in a really small industry. He had to get smart with his job hunting because the companies he is looking at would have to create a role in their organisations for him.

Of the three “applications” that he made there are two that are very interested and the third had objections that need to be reframed and dealt with. But he is still in with a chance. Also his existing company are also making moves to keep him on.

As I was going through this stuff I certainly could feel my mood turning. The reality is that I don’t want to feel good about the world because I have stuff to deal. But what I needed was something that motivates me enough to start performing again and reading this stuff was enough.

With that in mind I wanted to celebrate my mood changer with you. So I am having a flash sale on a unique version of the NLP Job Hunting Course. Until 9 am Saturday GMT (that will be about after midnight on Friday if you are in America) I am doing a better than half price flash sale on a mega Job Hunting Pack. The pack includes the original course, a pdf of the internationally bestselling Persuasion Skills Black Book of Job Hunting and the never been released individually audio book of the same.

Click through and find out more right here:

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