Lots of personal development junkies talk about setting goals and visualising them as if you have achieved them. I think that is a great start because it gets you all emotional and motivated to achieve. But I also think there are steps that you need to consider that are not talked often that are necessary on some level or another to achieve your goals.
The Truth About Goal Setting
The fact that you are setting a goal means that there is some growth, stretch or development involved. You won’t set a goal for going down to the shops to buy a pint of milk for example. You would just do it because there is not development that you need to make to get the milk.
So if you need to change to reach your goal then perhaps consideration might be made about that changes need to be made.. My thought experiment then is just asking yourself questions similar to this one,
“Who do I have to be to achieve my goal?”
Here is how I would like you to consider it though. Imagine seeing yourself having just achieved the goal. Then depending on your preferences just float into the body of your future self and see it through their eyes or perhaps you could just book some time with the future you so you can interview them and ask those types questions.
An Interview With the One Person that Really Matters
In short imagine having a conversation with a future version of you that has just achieved the goal and asking them what they have changed about their values, beliefs and identity that supported them achieving their goal.
To my mind this is more important information that the action plan of how to achieve the goal. My reasoning is that if achieving the goal was as simple as following the plan it would not be a goal worth setting…you would just go and do it.
The reality is that most goals are just about following the right steps but what stops us is our internal baggage. Our beliefs, values and identity. If you hit that exactly right then you would just do stuff without having to set them as goals.
But that might be a little ahead of ourselves in the process right now. Once you have considered how you need to change to achieve your goals your next step might be about making the change.
Already Using Your Imagination for a Change
The issue from my perspective is that if you can imagine the changes then you are already most of the way there. Perhaps a few standard NLP techniques are all that you need to develop your confidence in the changes.
So a good answer to the question, “Who do you have to be to achieve your goal?” might be enough for you to not have to set the goal in the first place.
Conversational Belief Changes
Imagine if you could set this up conversationally for your clients and prospects. For example; if you are insales thinking about your prospect in the light of “who do they have to be to want to rush at us with fistfuls of money desperate to buy from me?” And then, “who do I have to be to attract that sort of customer?”
The reality is this sort of questioning works really well when you are in the mindset to allow it to work. Setting that up for yourself and others is really simple when you have thought it through. If you want to know more about the preframes you can use to channel your thoughts in this sort of direction click through and have a look at Trancey Coaching Conversations right here: