We all learn through example. It is one of the reasons that I have very blatant and obvious examples of Hypnotic Language Patterns throughout my site.
The Key to NLP Persuasion Techniques
As you learn more come back to the site and look for examples of patterns.
Here is an example of a straightforward use of one of the patterns found in The Persuasion Skills Black Book that was sent in by Kate. I really like this example because it is fits naturally into what Kate is trying to say. Here is the email in full:
I haven’t emailed you before, but have been using the patterns during the last couple of weeks. The example of real practice are really useful to me to help me work out ones for myself. So here’s one of mine: I have been offered training that I want, but at the wrong time – I want 5th/6th May which I know is full. So I sent:
I’ve arranged for my husband to be at home with my 3 year old twins for the 5th and 6th May. Is there any chance I can be fitted into that training time as he can’t take the time off in July, and I really want to try this before September? I agree that this time is probably already booked up and I would like to add that my booking time off is a sign of my commitment.
Okay not huge deal, but I’m now top of the waiting list and very likely to attend as someone always drops out! The thing I find very interesting about all this, is that it doesn’t matter if you know what is going on, it still works. I spot your patterns well before you explain them, but I’m still taken along. I’m also finding them very useful with my three year old twins.
This is a great example of how you can just simply add patterns in to your natural use of language. And imagine what your life would be like when you are instinctively throwing out hypnotic language patterns as part of your natural speech?
Kate also brings up a really interesting point…even though I tell you that I am using a whole load of hypnotic patterns and that I try to make them big, obvious and blatant Kate still finds that they work.
The reason behind this is that to make sense of anything that is said you have to make an internal representation of it. If I want you to think of a blue car, just by talking about a blue car will cause you to think of one. Hypnotic Persuasion Skills is all about structuring your language in sequences of internal representations that lead the listener in the direction you want them to go in. It does not matter if they know what you are doing or not…if they are still listening then it is happening.
Getting agreement might be another matter, but if they can imagine agreement then the possibility is open for you. To find out more about how to structure sequences of internal representations through conversation check out The Persuasion Skills Black Book.
The Persuasion Skills Black Book will give you a head start in structuring your language so that you are sequencing the listener through different states and pointing them towards the things that you want them to notice.
Thanks Kate for allowing me to publish your email…it’s a great example and an opportunity to share some things about internal representations.