Persuasion Skills for Parenting
How to Develop your Children with Persuasive Techniques
Dr Tom has been using techniques from The Persuasion Skills Black Book for some time now and regularly gives me really useful material for the website as well as things that are now part of the book itself. Here is part of an email he sent me about how he is using the material with his daughters.
Persuasive Techniques and Developing Self Esteem for Children
Below is part of the email Dr Tom sent me which I think stands for itself as a brilliant application for all the material you will find in The Persuasion Skills Black Book:
Sent: Wednesday 22nd April
From: Dr Tom
… I mentioned that I will give each of my girls a copy (The Persuasion Skills Black Book) when they are a little older. There are several reasons for doing this. I don’t know why people never think of sharing or teaching this to their teenage children. The benefits are tremendous. It’s a confidence builder, they don’t learn it in school, and it’s one of the most important thing you could ever learn. Why hope they stumble upon it (like I did) when you can give this to them yourself?
Rintu, do you know what I tell my daughters since they were old enough to understand it? I tell them how proud I am of them, I tell them I love them. And I tell them how important their manners are, how they have great personalities, a great sense of humor, great people skills, that they speak well, are kind and polite, they share, and they are fun to be around.
Then I ask them why I told them that. It’s because these are some of the most important skills you will ever learn, and you don’t get graded on them, and nobody teaches you how important they are, in school.
I said, “Girls, I’m proud of how well you do in school, but almost nobody will ever ask to see your grades when you go for a job, or make a new friend. They will notice your personality, your smile, your manners, grooming habits, and the language that you use. And that is what is going to matter most.
After you graduate from college and go for a job in a brilliant career of your choosing, everyone will pretty much have the same credentials for the available position. Now, which one of you will get it? Can you imagine how well you will do when you combine all of those fine qualities and be a master of Persuasion Skills?
Dr Tom
Persuasive Techniques in Schools
I agree with Dr Tom whole heartedly with what he is doing with his daughters. Some of the things we review in The Persuasion Skill Black Book are so fundamental in terms of communication and how we interact with each other that they should be taught in schools. In an upcoming post you will see how one teacher is developing these ideas to give to children as part of life skills.
What Dr Tom is doing in terms of building the self esteem of his daughters is brilliant and I suspect there are more parents out there that can share some ideas. So feel free to add your ideas in the comments below.
May 22nd, 2009 at 10:45 pm
Hi Tom, Rintu,
I thought the suggestions and focus from the email is great. It is true many of these skills are never actually taught and should be. The issue is your generosity in sharing your methods, as well as the impact you could have on others here.
The email describes the girls being complimented on their personalities, humour, people skills, speech methods etc. How did you teach them to do these things so well ? And what do I need to write to persuade you to share your teaching :-] ?
“everyone will pretty much have the same credentials for the available position. Now which one of you will get it? Can you imagine how well you will do when you combine all of those fine qualities and be a master of persuasion skills?”……
……As well as using the material from the CV and interview package and the Advanced language and NLP courses I will invest in for you? LOL.